Welcome to a new week! Today is part 2 of Alice’s birth story (part one can be found here). You may remember that we left off with me suggesting that I scheduled my c-section for that week, and the doctor said that I should have it THAT NIGHT.
Get them on the phone!
Well, once I heard this suggestion, I was both immediately excited and nervous. Of course I was excited to meet my baby girl, but this was my first time having surgery EVER. I didn’t have too much time to think about that, however, since I had some calls to make. First, I called my husband.
Me: Hey, remember how I said that I was being discharged? Well, instead we’re having this baby tonight.
C: (stammering) Uh, okay. I have to finish up a few things and then grab stuff from the house and let the dogs out and then I’ll be on my way down.
I told C that he had some time because they had to wait at least six hours since the last time I had eaten, which was at noon (yummy strawberry smoothie, in case you’re wondering). I called my in-laws next, who agreed to pick up my dad and meet us at the hospital. And then I got to texting. I texted my friends, family, and the women that I work with. One of the funniest stories from this day is that I was being prepped for surgery, and yet I was leaving my away message on my work’s voicemail.
But…I need my mom
The next couple of hours consisted of a lot of paperwork, IVs, and explanations of what would be happening once I went into surgery. One thing that I started stressing early in the day was that I wanted to have my mom in the operating room, too. Technically, only one person is allowed to be with the patient, but I really wanted both my husband and my mom to be there. The doctor seemed to think it would be okay and so did most of the nurses. One nurse even brought in two sets of scrubs.
Unfortunately, this all came to a quick halt shortly before I went into surgery. One nurse came in and said that only my husband would be accompanying me. Now, don’t get me wrong, my husband was wonderful during my delivery and I’m so so thankful that he was there. But I really wanted my WHOLE support system there. The nurse had excuses for why my mom couldn’t be there and blamed others for making the decision, but in the end, I think she was following protocol to the letter instead of going along with what the rest of the surgical team’s flexibility.
My mom was the first person I saw following the surgery, however, and it was such a relief.
In the room where it happens
But I’m getting out of order–I apologize! Before I knew it, I was being walked to the operating room. I sat on the edge of the table, and my doctor told me that they would be administering the spinal pain medicine. I started to panic because my husband wasn’t in the room yet, and they weren’t going to let him in until I was given the spinal. I’m not great with needles, and the thought of not having someone to hold my hand during this procedure was really upsetting.
But then the most amazing thing happened. My doctor (who I had just met that day) told me to put my arms around her and hug her while I arched my back for the medicine. That act of kindness was so overwhelming, and I will always be thankful to her for that moment.
As they started to lay me down on the table, I began feeling hot and dizzy. I knew this feeling. Throughout my pregnancy, I couldn’t lay on my back because my blood pressure would drop, and that’s what was happening now. I heard them say, “We need to get the baby out fast.” All in the same moment, I was filled with a million worries. What if something was wrong with the baby? What if I went through the whole pregnancy just to miss out on being a mom? Was I ready to be a mom??? (of course the answer to #3 was yes, but hey, I was passing out!). I felt tugging and movement…and then she was out!
Alice Ada came into this world on August 28, 2017 at 8:11 pm. She had a little trouble breathing at first, but after a short intubation, she was breathing on her own again. She spent a couple of nights in the NICU, but by her third night, she was in the room with her mama and daddy, right where she belonged. Sure, there were a couple of moments during her delivery day that were a little scary, but I will always remember that day as magical because it’s the day that my daughter entered the world!
I could not be more in love with my beautiful daughter, and I am thankful everyday that I have been given the honor of being her mother.
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